Went to the opening of the Animal Attraction exhibit at the Academy of Science. I thought the exhibit itself was weak. Maybe I was expecting some mating bonobos. Instead, fish and spiders in small aquariums/terrariums not mating, and really small interactive video screens documenting and describing their mating habits. Which was okay, but sort of Oh well. More interesting were all the young people (21 and over), mostly couples, drinking alcohol and huddling around those screens looking for clues about how to get laid later.
The best thing was the Good Vibrations vibrator collection. 100 years of creative devices designed to stimulate women. Once again reminded that in the late 19th and early 20th centuries, women with "hysteria" would go to their doctors for sexual relief, and the vibrator became a big help for doctors (and women) who otherwise might have suffered from carpal tunnel syndrome or something. Such a strange thing to imagine having an orgasm in stirrups. I'm sure many sexual relationships that weren't so clinical developed between doctor and patient. Right? "I think you need to "come" in once a week for treatment, Mrs. Bender." "Yes, Doctor. I wholeheartedly agree. Would you mind taking your cock out now?"
One of the Good Vibrations founders gave a talk on the "Science of Orgasm." Big take away was that the longer you are in a state of arousal, the stronger the orgasm. So stop worrying that it takes 45 minutes sometimes. Plan on long sex dates. More blood flow, more nerve and "neurological engagement" means greater pleasure. Duh. I need to rethink the quickie. "Plan for pleasure! Schedule it!" was her message. I couldn't agree more. It's working for me, anyway. This week was a bonanza, I must say. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Practicing sex often it just gets better. At 51, I can safely say I'm entering the expert phase.
Here's a good tip you probably already know: If you "miss the train" while you're masturbating or your partner is going down on you and have a somewhat unsatisfying orgasm, keep going! The next one will most likely be REALLY good. Just give it more time. Works for me. Does this work for you? I guess (from research I just did) if you have a cock it's different. If you have a cock and you miss the orgasm train, you might need a little rest, or it might really be over for that session. For you. No big deal: can you imagine how many times we women have had sex and did not come? So get over it. But ladies, I say we don't have to settle for anything less than awesome orgasms.
I'm forgetting about my boundaries in this blog after seven days of anonymous posting on the Sex Diaries Project. It wasn't hard for me to be totally honest about my sexual thoughts and activities. But here, in this more public forum, I try to be a little bit coy. I have some idea of who you are, my friend, but many of you lurk quietly and only tell me when I see you how much you love this blog. Which is both startling and sweetly satisfying. Thank you.
It still baffles me, this weirdly intimate and undeniably public forum. Many of you will never tell me that you are reading this. It's makes me a little shy on one hand, but only when I think about it too much. You are in Paris and Austria and cities in Russia and parts of Asia I've never heard of, and I would love to hear from you. Please give me an anonymous comment, or a private facebook message or send me an email at kimbender7@gmail.com.
The best thing was the Good Vibrations vibrator collection. 100 years of creative devices designed to stimulate women. Once again reminded that in the late 19th and early 20th centuries, women with "hysteria" would go to their doctors for sexual relief, and the vibrator became a big help for doctors (and women) who otherwise might have suffered from carpal tunnel syndrome or something. Such a strange thing to imagine having an orgasm in stirrups. I'm sure many sexual relationships that weren't so clinical developed between doctor and patient. Right? "I think you need to "come" in once a week for treatment, Mrs. Bender." "Yes, Doctor. I wholeheartedly agree. Would you mind taking your cock out now?"
One of the Good Vibrations founders gave a talk on the "Science of Orgasm." Big take away was that the longer you are in a state of arousal, the stronger the orgasm. So stop worrying that it takes 45 minutes sometimes. Plan on long sex dates. More blood flow, more nerve and "neurological engagement" means greater pleasure. Duh. I need to rethink the quickie. "Plan for pleasure! Schedule it!" was her message. I couldn't agree more. It's working for me, anyway. This week was a bonanza, I must say. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Practicing sex often it just gets better. At 51, I can safely say I'm entering the expert phase.
Here's a good tip you probably already know: If you "miss the train" while you're masturbating or your partner is going down on you and have a somewhat unsatisfying orgasm, keep going! The next one will most likely be REALLY good. Just give it more time. Works for me. Does this work for you? I guess (from research I just did) if you have a cock it's different. If you have a cock and you miss the orgasm train, you might need a little rest, or it might really be over for that session. For you. No big deal: can you imagine how many times we women have had sex and did not come? So get over it. But ladies, I say we don't have to settle for anything less than awesome orgasms.
I'm forgetting about my boundaries in this blog after seven days of anonymous posting on the Sex Diaries Project. It wasn't hard for me to be totally honest about my sexual thoughts and activities. But here, in this more public forum, I try to be a little bit coy. I have some idea of who you are, my friend, but many of you lurk quietly and only tell me when I see you how much you love this blog. Which is both startling and sweetly satisfying. Thank you.
It still baffles me, this weirdly intimate and undeniably public forum. Many of you will never tell me that you are reading this. It's makes me a little shy on one hand, but only when I think about it too much. You are in Paris and Austria and cities in Russia and parts of Asia I've never heard of, and I would love to hear from you. Please give me an anonymous comment, or a private facebook message or send me an email at kimbender7@gmail.com.
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