Thursday, November 22, 2012

Thanksgiving in the hood

On the street below my window a man pulls up his pants. He's having trouble. He's hiding between a pick-up truck and a bright blue Recology bin. He doesn't know I can see him. Now he's digging through the bin for cans and bottles. Today is just like any other day, except maybe someone came by with a styrofoam box of turkey and mashed potatoes, the fixings. Maybe he got one and maybe he didn't. He's gone now, and so is the recycle bin.

Walking down Sixth Street towards the SOMA Whole Foods on 4th and Harrison one man races by pushing a wheelchair with another man in it, both singing, "We gonna take you HIGHer!" A woman standing in the middle of the street does the crazy, look-at-me dance in front of cars stopped at the signal. Her face, like the other faces we pass, is scrunched, missing teeth, the contraction of all expression into one that says, "I am lost beyond all hope."

There are dramas on Sixth Street as Ian and I walk by. If people see us they don't pay much attention. It's like we are in a parallel universe when we dodge SRO residents arguing, step over the lumpy spit on the sidewalk in front of the Bayanihan House,  everybody waiting for evening to come so they can return to their rooms. If they have a room. We weave around a black woman holding a big, fat white poodle on her shoulder. "You heard right! Now, give it to me!" she shouts.

The people with facial tattoos fascinate me. The man walking up the BART stairs on Market and Seventh the other day looking up with intense expectancy, his gaze passing right through me. What is the future you make for yourself when you tattoo your face? What is the past you come from that brings you to the decision to tattoo your face? Could I ever be that sad, or feel my choices were so limited that I would decide to tattoo my face? I can imagine it.

When Thanksgiving is sunny, and everyone inside Whole Foods has money to buy readymade gourmet mashed potatoes and organic kale, it makes you think no one is hungry. Then you walk two blocks up to Sixth and it's another story. A man asks for a quarter; I give him an organic Pink Lady that cost me 98 cents. He's not happy. I realize he may not have enough teeth to eat an apple but I keep walking.

An angry skinhead screams racial slurs and tips over all the trash cans into the street on Stevenson.

The security guard in the Ninth Circuit Court parking lot across the street opens the hatch to his Dodge Caravan and starts fixing his lonely dinner. On the other side of the steel gate a bearded man walks with purpose holding a cup from Starbucks. I can't see his face but I know what it looks like. It's hollow and anxious. His teeth are gone. He's hurrying to nowhere.

I will whip organic cream past soft peaks and sprinkle a dash of rapadura sugar into it and bring it with my pumpkin pie to the potluck down the hall.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Egan, Proust, Strindberg, kids

I am no longer the parent of any teenagers. As of today.

Things change so quickly my neck hurts.

I am writing like a motherfucker, challenged by the multiple demands of just living.

Jennifer Egan's book A Visit from the Goon Squad had a profound effect on me. I am inspired to experiment more, to broaden my range. Thanks to Jon V for making me read it. She moves around so fluidly in time, which is the real subject of this book. "Time is a goon." In interviews she says Proust and The Sopranos were big influences. Having read all 7000 pages of Proust a couple of years ago (with the beloved Bolinas Proust group), I was so ready for this book. Her website is another revelation.

On Saturday attended the Cutting Ball Theater's presentation of the Strindberg Cycle - all five of Strindberg's chamber plays in one day. It was an amazing, rigorous experience entering into the world of Strindberg for almost 12 hours, including breaks during which the subject of conversation was still Strindberg. I highly recommend seeing some or all of these plays. This is the first time in history that all five plays have been performed in rep. I mean first ever. The website is super informative for background and for actually seeing the plays performed if you cannot attend live.

Experiencing Strindberg's world of fucked up families with secrets and vendettas made me feel better about my little family.

We talk. We often have meals together. We like to hang out in the same places, but also are fine staying apart. We enjoy silence together.

This is the birthday week. Joseph on the 11th,  Zoe on the 13th and Ian the 14th. Every year.

Last night I sat in my new office (which is now also Zoe's City space) upstairs with Zoe and some of her best friends, including Ian, while she played a song on the ukelele that she wrote back in February in London. I'm feeling like shit with a bad cough but the song lifted me up. She is now 26: half my age. From now on, she's been alive more than half my life.

Joseph is steadily working on his school bus/art car project with big ideas for 2013. He's 24 now.

Tonight, right now,  Ian is letting go of his childhood in a ritual involving fire on a beach somewhere. Today he is 20. Twenty years ago right now he was fifteen minutes old.